I am Dr. Christi Monk, an organizational leadership expert and a certified personal life coach. Welcome to my blog!!! I cannot wait to help other women transform into the women they have been predestined to be. I am so excited about my journey and assignment that I have trouble sleeping.
Like you, I was unhappy in my personal life and even more frustrated professionally. There is no feeling worse than being surrounded by people who think that you have it all together especially when they look to you for validation and clarification in their lives. Yet, I often felt alone partially because I was afraid to show my inadequacies and share what I was most fearful of (After all, I just couldn’t let the people down…lol)
After seeking coaching myself, I have been able to take the steps to do what I have been purposed to do. The funny part is that we think that certain things will be easy, but the reality is once you start taking a look at who you have become, you become sad. The good news is you should be sad because we all have let others take our God given destiny to make it fit their personal needs. You may ask why is she sharing this…First a few good women who I value dearly said to tell my story (oh and a story it is)…
Well, you guessed it, that’s how Finding The Real You was birthed. AND COACHING DOES WORK!!!
I finally took a bold stance to stop letting others define my path and worked to unravel the mistruths that I had succumbed to personally and professionally. I have been able to find the “real me” and my newfound freedom is unexplainable!!! Let me partner with you on a journey of self-discovery and transformation to finding the real you. You will be glad you did.
My question to you is: Have you ever had a moment in your life when the light bulb just clicked and you just can’t help but chuckle at the thought of you not realizing how you missed something that was right before your eyes? There have been times in my life when I simply didn’t know how I missed the obvious…
One day my pastor asked me a question that sparked this journey of self-discovery…”Christi are you whole as a single?”…. Like many of us, we think that we are ok and say to ourselves “there ain’t nothing wrong with me; it’s them, not me” (yes, I know that is grammatically incorrect but work with me here).
Oddly enough I did finally realize that there was something wrong with me. My journey as a child was to always make good grades and to be a good example for others. God forbid that I do something wrong; you would think that it was the end of the world.
Our childhood experiences begin to shape who we are as adults (good, bad, or indifferent). I was blown away by my first coaching session. Talk about self-discovery…I learned things about myself that left me speechless after the first 15 minutes of the conversation. The most frightening part of this transformation journey was having to look at my past.
That was 5 years ago which is indicative that it takes time to learn to love yourself so that you can effectively be able to be the real you. This first step to finding the real you is to REVIVE….
Webster’s dictionary describes revive as to make operative or valid again. Another great definition is to restore to life.
Each week I will share stories from my life and share with you how I found the real me. I will share the strategies I developed that helped me get unstuck so that I could experience total freedom from the life others created for me.
Stay tuned to learn how I was able to get revived…