Time, money and energy are all resources that we all have a limited amount of and it is our responsibility to manage them wisely – no one else is going to do it for us. For that reason, it’s important to learn to say no to things we legitimately can’t afford- and that goes for our time and energy as well as our money.
Here are 5 great ways to say “no” and the reasons why you should.
1.) Set a “time budget” and stick with it
Budgeting your time wisely is every bit as important as budgeting your money. Sit down and list your expenses – the time you must have for work, sleep, close friends and family and yourself. Once you know what your “expenses” are every month, then you know how much “surplus” you have (if any) and you know what you can and cannot fit into your budget. Say no to anything that doesn’t fit in your budget.
2.) Manage your energy
Emotional energy is just like any kind of energy. We all have things (and people) in our life that drain our energy and things that give us a charge. Start paying attention to what drains you and what gives you energy. Say no to anything you possibly can that drains you and make sure you engage in as many activities and with as many people as possible that give you energy.
3.) ALWAYS say “Let me think about it.”
The world is chock full of controlling people that know how to guilt and manipulate you into saying yes to things they know you want to say no to. Always give yourself time to evaluate away from the person who is asking something of you. If they need an answer right away, get in the habit of always saying no. You can almost always say yes later if you change your mind, but it’s much, much harder to say no once you’ve already said yes.
4.) Get in the habit of making no your default
For some reason, women in particular seem to say yes unless they can immediately think of a really good reason for saying no. Get in the habit of saying no as your default instead. Again, it’s almost always easier to say yes later if you change your mind than to say yes first and then decide you need to say no.
5.) Above all else, always stay honest
Lying should never be your default, but there are always going to be people that just will not accept a genuine, legitimate reason for saying no, such as “I’m tired”, “I can’t afford it” or “I don’t have time.” But there are just too many repercussions when you lie and they mostly effect you. Therefore, if you are absolutely, positively backed into a corner by someone who will not take no for an answer – protect yourself by putting the spot light on them “I’m sorry but I simply cannot do it and as you are just as (busy, budgeted, etc.) I know that you will respect my decision.”
Don’t feel guilty for saying no. If you spread yourself too thin or do not stay true to who you are, it is you who will suffer. By keeping to your boundaries and abilities you will end up more Effective, Productive, Influential, and Confident! Find your confidence HERE.
Be Confident, Be Bold, Be You!